The divorce process is complicated, involving legal, financial, and emotional aspects. No single person can be an expert in all three areas, especially not a person going through their own divorce when intense emotions cloud decision-making. Thankfully, a certified divorce coach has the required knowledge and skill to serve as your divorce coordinator to help guide you through the process and have a successful divorce.
The first professional you hire to assist with your divorce should be a certified divorce coach. A divorce coach understands the entire process and can determine what professionals you need and when. The default option that most people consider to lead their divorce is a lawyer. While attorneys have their role in divorce, a divorce coach as your primary coordinator can save money, and time, while providing a more holistic approach. A divorce coach can assist with planning and preparation before consulting with additional professionals, reducing the billable time from costly experts such as lawyers and financial advisors.
Divorce coaches come with various skill sets, where some have limited training to only provide emotional support after divorce. I am a certified divorce coach and trained in divorce mediation. I can help guide you through the entire divorce process and support your recovery.
A divorce coach is like a navigator, helping to coordinate and consult on divorce topics. I will welcome you in your state of flux and emergency to conquer divorce.
How Does a Certified Divorce Coach Help?
Organization and Planning
The divorce process can be overwhelming and complicated. As an experienced divorce coach, I can educate and explain the process of divorce saving you time, money, and grief.
I will assist you in getting organized for the divorce. Together, we will start a file and begin the process of the business of divorce. I can provide a step-by-step plan to get you from start to finish, helping to manage paperwork and meet deadlines.
Divorce is full of legal terms such as BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement) and WATNA (Worst Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). I can explain these terms and the legal process of divorce.
Recommend Professionals
With the legal and financial implications of divorce, often other experts are required to assist. Who are the players in your story, and what support do you need to help you make good choices for going through separation and divorce and rebuilding your life. I can help you build a professional team specific to your goals and situation. From here, you can get expert advice to get the best outcome from your divorce.
Decision Making and Problem Solving Strategies
With ample experience as a divorce coach, including first-hand exposure, I can assist with decisions and help you avoid the various pitfalls. I can inform you of your potential options, whether mediation, collaborative law, etc.
Even more importantly, I can help you become more autonomous by providing a framework for making decisions during divorce. With emotions running high, it is challenging to think logically and critically. As a divorce coach, I often see people unable to make decisions because they are so overwhelmed by the complicated process and emotionally exhausted. I can help you break out of this rut.
Slowing down the decision-making process gives you more time to develop and consider different options. It is essential to test out the options you are considering.
Simple prompts can be extremely valuable to assist in decision-making, especially when overcome with intense emotion. For example, attempt to play the movie forward. Ask yourself, “if I go down that path, what will my life look like in 1, 3, 5, or 10 years?”
Additionally, ask what the best-case scenario is? What is the worst-case scenario? These simple questions, and many more, can be very effective when making high-stakes decisions.
When your intense emotions run high, you can make decisions that do not serve your best interests. Becoming aware of the impact of these emotions can open up other alternatives for you – like engaging with a thinking partner(coach) or talking with additional experts who can give you the most likely outcomes and consequences of your decisions.
Emotional Support
There is no doubt that divorce is very challenging emotionally. The divorce transition is a significant life event. You are likely filled with fear, anger, and pain, leaving you exhausted. A divorce coach is trained to help you manage these emotions and recover from this painful process.
Support Amicable Separation
It is natural for an adversarial relationship to develop between you and your partner with divorce. You may want to inflict pain on your partner or punish them for the pain they have caused you. However, this type of relationship is not productive for the divorce process or helpful for your long-term well-being. The effects on children can be even more damaging.
A divorce coach can provide strategies for communicating with your spouse in an effective, productive manner while understanding that there is a lot of baggage to the relationship. As a divorce coach, I can recommend co-parenting strategies that are best for both the children and the parents.
Purpose of a Certified Divorce Coach
My purpose as a divorce coordinator is to help you get clear about your options and priorities, get clarity for making decisions, and provide you with trained and licensed experts to give you advice.
Although most people want to rush through their divorce to get the painful process over and move on, it is best to take your time and think through all your options. Seek out the help and support of professionals who will enable you to make good decisions that will support the kind of life you want in the future. The right professionals can save you time and money and better serve your well-being.
A certified divorce coach can help you navigate the complicated divorce process and have a successful divorce. If you would like assistance from a certified divorce coach, contact Sandy to book an appointment today. For more advice on divorce and separation, be sure to visit the blog.
